Nothing can kill attraction and ruin your chances of seeing a girl again quite like texting a girl too much.  It makes a guy look needy and provides no challenge for the girl (which means she may quickly get bored and move on.

To avoid the common mistake guys make of sending a girl too many messages, here are a few simple rules for texting girls that will help you text a girl the right amount:

  • When texting a girl, keep the text ratio close to 1:1.  You want to send her about as many texts as she sends you (and look to keep them roughly the same length).

  • Cut out needless texts.  Don’t text a girl in situations where a response isn’t necessary.  For example, you don’t need to reply to her “have a good night!” text if you’re just going to say “you too!”  At that point the conversation is already over.  Let it end with her.

  • Keep an abundance mentality.  Over-texting a girl tends to be the result of scarcity and neediness.  That is, guys feel they need things to go well with her because they are afraid it’s the only opportunity they’ll have with a girl for a long time.  To avoid this, you want to have an abundance mentality when texting women.  Simply imagine that you have a hundred other amazing girls that are actively interested in you.  This will help you from getting too hung up on that one girl and prevent you from texting her too much.