Many people are single, they wish to love and be loved but it never seems to happen at least not when and how they want it to happen. To make matters worse, they never seem to know why they remain single when they are fly and hang out with great people.
If you are going through this, worry not. I will give you some of the reasons why you are still single so that you can make necessary adjustments and hopefully meet your soulmate sooner than later.
1. Too demanding
Most of the time you don’t realize how demanding you are until a friend or someone close to you points it out to you. Unfortunately, they don’t and it only gets worse. People’s demands range from how they want other people to treat them to choice of dating activities and venues to how others should dress and act. Demands are viewed and baggage so people simply avoid you.
How do you deal with it?
Learn to be accommodating; things must not be done the way you want every time. If you want things done differently, ask politely or propose an alternative.
2. Too desperate to be loved
When you are desperate you will do anything for the other person. You give them too much attention, do everything and go everywhere they want regardless of what you want or think about it. This makes you plain boring. Relations are a give-and-take arrangement. Your different opinion is your value. If you have nothing to offer, you have no value and just like that; they’ll drop you and move on.
3. Fear of loving again
Loving anyone is risking being hurt; it is guaranteed you will be hurt because human beings are not perfect. Even your teeth bite your tongue though they are part of the same body and live with each other forever. So when you get hurt, deal with the pain but don’t hold on to the hurt. Take time to heal and when that is done, rise up and leave the hurt in your past. Move on and love again and be loved. You mean the world to someone in this big world; give them a chance and you will happy.
The dating game has become a public affair with ladies making public most if not all dates. As fate would have it, they only go for dates in the best and most expensive joints in town same way no girl has pimples on social media. The truth is most peoples’ lives suck but they put up a facade on social media to boost their egos. Be real, live within your means and keep it private, it will reduce the pressure to be extravagant build trust with your lover.
Social media and media has socialized teenagers and young adults to believe that romance is the most important thing in their lives. Many feel like they will die if they don’t have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. In extreme cases, some give up on life goals like: education, career, health and hobbies to pursue romance. This has made romance so mechanical and empty activity that leaves “lovebugs” frustrated because they lack the patience and patience and discipline of building a real relationship that is not based on soap operas.
So, bereal and take your time and love will find you.
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